Who should be the breadwinner

Does it matter who the "breadwinner" is in your relationship?

It's a question personal finance guru Suze Orman asked her audience over the weekend. She was directing the question specifically at men, positing that when men say "it doesn't matter", that typically means it does bother us.

I disagree: I think it really doesn't bother most men if their SO makes more cash than they do. Anyone 40 or younger has certainly grown up in an era of high-earning career women, single mothers and, when people get married, two-income households. I can say with certainty that every man I count among my friends wants a woman who works -- at least while they're a childless as a couple. We're all fully aware dating a working woman means she might make more than we do, overall income disparities notwithstanding.

What men will resent is being disrespected because we make less money than our partner. I don't know anyone who would tolerate that, or who should.

What's your take? Men, do you prefer making more money than your girlfriend or wife? Women, does it matter to you at all?