Another interesting question from Formspring:
How do you feel about relationships where one person financially takes care of the other (usually happens when there is an age gap)? Some would deem this as a Sugar Daddy/Mama type of relationship. What are your thoughts on it?That depends. You know a rich miss looking to sponsor my 33rd birthday party this month? If so, she can call me.
Seriously, I'd be careful about labeling anyone's relationships since everyone does what works for their situations. Is a woman a "Sugar Mama" if she helps her man work his way through college or starting a business? Is a man 'trickin' if his wife or girlfriend is able to stay home to focus on her goals or help with family or household matters?The point I'm making is that in order to make our financial and romantic relationships harmonious, people need to stop relying on tired, rehashed and stereotypical portrayals of how we behave toward each other when money is involved. Clearly no one wants to be used. No man wants to end up with a "gold-digger" attached to his wallet and no woman wants some lazy, deadbeat man attached to her purse.
But I think those situations lie so far outside the mean that most of us will never have to worry about being someone's Sugar Mama or Daddy (unless we want to be). Meanwhile, most of us have real, common issues in our financial lives that we really need to straighten out before we can be decent romantic-financial partners with anyone else. We'd all do better to focus on those.